Success and Envy

First, know that your success (and those of your spouse, kids, grandkids, etc) may be perceived as a threat to others. Social comparison theory would predict that your success could make others in your life feel pretty bad. This is especially true if your success is in an area that is highly valued by others.

Second, be mindful that since others may not share your happiness with your success some good things that happen to you should be kept quiet if you want to maintain pleasant interpersonal relationships with others. So, be selective with who you share your good news with.

Third, don’t take it personal when people may be more distant from you after learning of your success or if they try to diminish your happiness about it. Again, some people are better able to manage their feelings and impulses about this than others.

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